A couple of weeks ago, I woke up and was in a funk. Have you ever had that happen? If you’ve never been in a funk, good for you! When I say a funk, I mean this general malaise, feeling down but not knowing why. I don’t want to confuse it with depression, that’s another subject. Basically, I woke up and could not find a smile, could not find motivation, could not find the joy that day.
When this happens, I try to find the reasons why. What is causing this funk? Why can’t I pull myself out of it? Why do I wear my emotions on my sleep? Why can’t I just fake it until I make it?
I examine what is going on in my life, in my friend’s lives, in the world at large. Did I get enough sleep? Did I have a bad dream? What is the root cause?
The last funk had so many causes. It started with a bad dream where I discovered my boyfriend had a fiancé. Poor guy…I woke up pretty upset with him. Luckily it was just a dream but it didn’t improve my mood. All day, I was examining what could be the deeper cause.
Perhaps it was because several friends are dealing with death and grief. A mother gone too soon, a sister gone after a tragic life, a father teetering in between here and there, another family member taken so suddenly, family members dealing with a cancer diagnosis. Perhaps it’s the general state of our world.
The more I thought about it, the more I realized that there has been a lot of crazy stuff going on and it made perfect sense that the funk descended. Now, what to do about it? Sometimes I feel like I need to ‘fight through’ the muck and put on a happy face but does that really work…maybe, for a short period of time. What tends to work for me, is to sit with it, be in it, work through it, take a nap, read a book, watch mindless tv…basically, don’t fight it. I have found the more I fight it, the longer the funk lasts.
The big lesson, I seem to have to learn over and over again, is that life will knock you off your feet and sometimes you need to lay there for a little while before getting back up. Get back up when you’re ready, and if you need someone to help you off the floor, give me a call.
What do you do when you get in one of these funks? I'd love to hear what works for you!