Trying to find more Balance

When you hear the word balance, what do you think?  Your work life is in balance with your home life?  You can get everything accomplished on time, easily?  Everything just flows perfectly?  I know there has been the Balance debate for years.  Is it really possible to have perfect balance in your life? 

I would argue that it’s impossible to have true balance.  Well, at least that’s true for me, maybe you’ve figured it out.  And if you have, I would love to have a conversation with you.

I have been thinking a lot about balance lately and I want to share why in hopes that maybe this conversation will resonate with you too.

Last fall, I completed my Life Coaching Certification and jumped in to creating my website, my business cards, and started networking trying to generate clients.  I was ready to ramp up my business and get as many clients as humanly possible.  Then at the beginning of January, I met someone and started falling in love.   This relationship is different from those in the past, we are both on the same page as far as what we want in our relationship, where we want to go, and how we feel about each other.  I focused my attention on nurturing our relationship and really getting to know each other.  In the meantime, of course, I had to continue teaching because you know I still had to pay the rent and feed my cat, and besides, I love teaching!   And my coaching business went on the back burner. 

I was still putting some attention on my business, I networked online, promoted it at one or two events, created postcards to give away, and actually engaged a few clients.  However, I was not putting the effort into it that I really needed to create the business I want.  I haven’t been able to find the time or energy to focus on nurturing my relationship while also nurturing my business, much less spend time with friends too.  I have been finding it hard to find that elusive balance.

I am at the point now, 7 months into the relationship, where things are great with my love.  We are planning to move in together at the end of the year and we have a pretty good rhythm going.  I think it’s time to take some of the energy I have been focusing solely on my relationship, and start focusing again on my business.  I want to make this flourish as much as my relationship. 

Here’s the challenge though, finding the time to get it all done.  I will admit that I’m a procrastinator and can easily find 100 distractions to keep from my work, including Netflix binging.  I mean I’ve had the idea for a blog post series now for months, and haven’t written a word, until now. 

As I write this, I realize that maybe it’s not really about finding the time, but getting more disciplined with my time.  Making the most of each break in my day. 

I would love to hear from you about how you find the balance or maybe I was right at the beginning on the post, that true balance doesn’t exist.  Either way, I would love to hear your thoughts!

Melissa Piccola1 Comment