Taking it Lightly
Part of the reason I moved to this new apartment was to meet new people and hopefully start dating again. Since my break up last year, I've had exactly one date who was a friend of a friend and it was clear from the get-go that neither of us had any interest. So last weekend when I ran into one of my neighbors and he clearly expressed interest, it was refreshing and totally flattering. We've hung out a couple of times and while there is an attraction, it won't go any further than friendship (with a bit of flirting thrown in). Why? Because I've made a rule that I will only get involved with someone who is totally single, already divorced or if they are separated, then it's only a matter of signing on the dotted line. I've had a bit of experience with men who were separated but not divorced and it never ends well. He's only recently separated and clearly not in a place to be dating, so we'll stick with rule on this one.
I'm hoping to meet more new neighbors and maybe one of them will turn out to be more than friends, we'll see. Just the other day, one of the girls in the leasing office mentioned that maybe I should get lost on the fourth floor because someone new moved in that I might be interested in. Haven't met him yet but I may just have to hit the wrong button on the elevator.
This move has been the right one for me. And even if my dating life doesn't improve, that's ok, my social life has and spending time with friends is way more important anyway. Although I think I may wander up to the fourth floor just for fun.