I'm trying to figure out when I started not caring about what other people think.  Maybe it was when I stopped looking for my parent's approval.  Maybe it was when I became comfortable with being alone and decided to stop online dating and let things happen organically (which they did by the way, but that's a story for another day).  Maybe it was when I turned  40 or 45 or last year. I'm not sure exactly when it happened but one day I decided the only opinion that truly matters is mine.  I stopped looking outside for answers.  I realized all of the answers were inside me.  I knew all along what I needed to do, I just needed to be quiet for long enough to listen.  So, maybe I realized all of this when I started my coaching training.  As part of the training we had to be coached as well as practice coaching.  It was during these sessions, that I came up with the answers I needed.  Someone else had to ask the right questions, but the answers were all mine.  

There's a sort of freedom with not worrying about what other people think.  Now that's not to say that I don't care what the people I love think.  Of course, I want to make sure I'm not doing or saying anything that would hurt them or make them stop loving me.  But worrying about how I look in public or filtering what I say so I don't offend some random person, that no longer concerns me.  

Also, along these same lines is accepting my appearance, being comfortable in my own skin.  Accepting the curves and bumps, the lines and wrinkles, the gray hair and random stray hairs.  As I approach 50, I am becoming more accepting of all of these things.  That's not to say, I don't worry about what I eat or slack off on working out but I realize I'm never going to be a size 4 again or weigh 125 pounds.  I'm in pretty good shape and eat fairly healthy, but I still enjoy my red wine and the occasional dessert.  

All of this is to say, self-acceptance is freeing.  When you stop worrying about everyone else's opinion, you have way more time to ENJOY this life!


Every year I choose a guiding word.  Often it takes a while to make this choice, but this year the word chose me before the year even began.  

Abundance is my word for 2017.

Definition:  an extremely plentiful or oversufficient quantity or supply; overflowing fullness; affluence; wealth

What does abundance mean to me?  And why did this word choose me?

At first glance, I see abundance as it relates to money - having enough to pay my bills, save for the future and help others.  It also relates to other areas of my life - I envision having excellent health as I hit fifty and receiving (and accepting) an abundance of  love, for myself and others. 

As I dive deeper into the real meaning of abundance, I see that it encompasses all areas of my life.  As per the definition, an overflowing fullness.

2017 will be a transformative year and I am looking forward to it.

How about you?  Do you select a guiding word for the year or do you set an intention for the year?  Please share in the comments below.  I would love to hear from you!


Every January 1st seems like a clean slate, a day to begin new projects, set new intentions, perhaps begin a new career or set new goals.  

What do you want to Begin this year?  What changes do you want to make?  

Perhaps you have new fitness goals, new career goals or new relationship goals.  Perhaps you aren't sure what change you want or need to make.  Are you stuck and don't know how to move forward?  That's where I can help!

We can work together to discover the changes you want and need in your life.  Together we can get you unstuck and send you off on a new adventure.

Send me a message and we'll talk!